Phase 2 · Building Blocks · Chapter 9

Reflexive Verbs

Level A1–A2 Priority Essential Skills Read · Write · Speak · Listen Depth 5–7 hrs
Objective: This closes out Phase 2 · Building Blocks — the final verb-system chapter right after -IR/-RE and the irregulars. Reflexive verbs (verbes pronominaux) are the ones where the subject does the action to itself — se laver (to wash oneself), se lever (to get up) — and they run on a small extra pronoun (me/te/se/nous/vous/se) that sits right in front of the verb and must match the subject. By the end of this chapter you can climb the full pronoun ladder without hesitating, conjugate daily-routine and feeling verbs completely — including stem-changing ones like se lever and s'appeler — use the reciprocal "each other" meaning, negate and question a reflexive verb correctly, and — the single highest-value point — change the pronoun to match the subject whenever a reflexive verb follows aller, vouloir, or devoir as an infinitive, for speaking, writing, listening and reading. Objectif : maîtriser l'échelle des pronoms réfléchis (me/te/se/nous/vous/se), conjuguer entièrement les verbes pronominaux de routine et de sentiment (y compris les verbes à changement de radical comme se lever et s'appeler), employer le sens réciproque « l'un l'autre », former la négation et la question, et accorder le pronom au sujet après aller/vouloir/devoir + infinitif pronominal.

Colour code — the same on every page

  • Sujetwho acts
  • Verbethe action
  • Complémentwhat follows the verb
  • Petit motarticle, preposition, pronoun
  • Négationthe two pieces around the verb
  • Lienwhat joins two ideas
Le matin, je ne me lève pas tôt parce que je travaille la nuit.

A dotted underline marks the letters that change to match something else — Elle s’est levée.

One extra small word sits between the subject and the verb, and it matches the subject.

Je me lève à six heures.

Tu te dépêches le matin.

Nous nous parlons souvent.

Elle s’est levée tôt.

📘 Describing your daily routine — je me réveille, je me lave, je m'habille — is one of the most common TEF/TCF speaking and writing prompts, and this chapter is the direct grammar behind it. Everywhere on this page, the reflexive pronoun is shown in violet, the stem — the part that stays put — is shown in navy, and the ending — the letters that change for each person — is shown in red. Tap 🌐 EN in the top bar to show English translations under every French line. Prefer paper? 📄 Open the Workbook & PDF — practice questions + answer key.

1 · What a reflexive verb actually is — the action bounces back

2 · The pronoun ladder: me, te, se, nous, vous, se

SubjectReflexive pronounBefore a vowel / silent hEnglish sense
jemem'myself
tutet'yourself
il / elle / onses'himself / herself / oneself
nousnousnous (no change)ourselves
vousvousvous (no change)yourself / yourselves
ils / ellesses'themselves

3 · The template verb: "se laver" (to wash oneself), fully conjugated

SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jeme laveme laveI wash (myself)
tute laveste lavesyou wash (yourself)
il / elle / onse lavese lavehe / she washes (themself)
nousnous lavonsnous lavonswe wash (ourselves)
vousvous lavezvous lavezyou wash (yourself / yourselves)
ils / ellesse laventse laventthey wash (themselves)

Once you can build this table from memory for any -ER reflexive verb, you already know the pattern for dozens of verbs:

4 · The daily-routine verb set — and the "se lever" stem change

SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jeme lèveme lèveI get up
tute lèveste lèvesyou get up
il / elle / onse lèvese lèvehe / she gets up
nousnous levonsnous levonswe get up (plain e — no accent)
vousvous levezvous levezyou get up (plain e — no accent)
ils / ellesse lèventse lèventthey get up

5 · Feeling and state verbs — "s'appeler" and its doubled l

SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jem'appellem'appelleI am called / my name is
tut'appellest'appellesyou are called
il / elle / ons'appelles'appellehe / she is called
nousnous appelonsnous appelonswe are called (single l)
vousvous appelezvous appelezyou are called (single l)
ils / elless'appellents'appellentthey are called (doubled l)

6 · The reciprocal meaning: "each other" instead of "-self"

7 · Negation and questions with a reflexive verb

Negation pattern: Je ne me lève pas tôt le samedi. (I don't get up early on Saturdays.) — never Je me ne lève pas or Je me lève ne pas.

8 · The highest-value trap: aller / vouloir / devoir + reflexive infinitive

The rule in one breath: conjugated verb (aller / vouloir / devoir) + matching pronoun + infinitive. Je vais me lever tôt demain.I'm going to get up early tomorrow.
✓ correct — Tu dois te dépêcher, l'autobus arrive ! You have to hurry, the bus is coming!
✗ wrong — Tu dois se dépêcher, l'autobus arrive ! The pronoun didn't change to match "tu" — this is the single most common slip in this whole chapter.

Watch the pronoun change in every example below — the verb lever, dépêcher, promener, coucher, préparer never conjugates (it's always in its plain -er infinitive form), but the little pronoun in front always tracks back to whoever the real subject is.

Say (or write) two true sentences about tomorrow using aller + a reflexive infinitive, remembering to change the pronoun to match "je".

A full pair of answers: Demain, je vais me réveiller à six heures et je vais me dépêcher pour attraper l'autobus de sept heures.Tomorrow, I'm going to wake up at six and I'm going to hurry to catch the seven o'clock bus.

1 · The pronoun ladder — memorise once, use forever

Recipe: every reflexive verb needs a pronoun in front that matches the subject — no exceptions, ever. Before a vowel or silent h, me/te/se shrink to m'/t'/s'.
SubjectPronounBefore a vowel / silent hEnglish senseExample
jemem'myselfJe m'habille. I get dressed.
tutet'yourselfTu t'appelles Léo. You're named Léo.
il / elle / onses'himself / herself / oneselfIl s'ennuie. He gets bored.
nousnousnous (no change)ourselvesNous nous levons. We get up.
vousvousvous (no change)yourself / yourselvesVous vous couchez. You go to bed.
ils / ellesses'themselvesElles s'amusent. They have fun.

2 · Template verb — "se laver" (to wash oneself), fully regular

Recipe: matching pronoun + a completely normal -ER verb. The ending never knows the verb is reflexive — same -e · -es · -e · -ons · -ez · -ent as any -ER verb from Chapter 4.
SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jeme laveme laveI wash (myself)
tute laveste lavesyou wash (yourself)
il / elle / onse lavese lavehe / she washes (themself)
nousnous lavonsnous lavonswe wash (ourselves)
vousvous lavezvous lavezyou wash (yourself / yourselves)
ils / ellesse laventse laventthey wash (themselves)

Same family (drop straight into this table): se doucher (shower), se raser (shave), se maquiller (put on makeup), se reposer (rest), se préparer (get ready), se dépêcher (hurry), se réveiller (wake up).

3 · "se lever" (to get up) — the e → è stem change

Flag it: the e becomes è in every form where the stress lands on the stem — that's the singular and ils/elles. In nous/vous the stress shifts onto the ending, so the plain e stays, no accent.
SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jeme lèveme lèveI get up (accent)
tute lèveste lèvesyou get up (accent)
il / elle / onse lèvese lèvehe / she gets up (accent)
nousnous levonsnous levonswe get up (no accent)
vousvous levezvous levezyou get up (no accent)
ils / ellesse lèventse lèventthey get up (accent)

4 · "s'appeler" (to be named) — the doubled-l stem change

Flag it: same shape as se lever, different tool — the l doubles to ll wherever the stress lands on the stem (singular + ils/elles); nous/vous keep a single l.
SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jem'appellem'appelleI am called (double l)
tut'appellest'appellesyou are called (double l)
il / elle / ons'appelles'appellehe / she is called (double l)
nousnous appelonsnous appelonswe are called (single l)
vousvous appelezvous appelezyou are called (single l)
ils / elless'appellents'appellentthey are called (double l)

5 · Daily-routine verb set

VerbMeaningExample
se réveillerwake upJe me réveille à six heures et demie. I wake up at half past six.
se leverget up (out of bed)Il se lève tôt pour aller au travail. He gets up early to go to work.
se laverwash upJe me lave les mains avant de manger. I wash my hands before eating.
se douchershowerTu te douches le matin ou le soir ? Do you shower in the morning or the evening?
s'habillerget dressedElle s'habille rapidement. She gets dressed quickly.
se brosser les dents / les cheveuxbrush teeth / hairLes enfants se brossent les dents après le déjeuner. The kids brush their teeth after breakfast.
se maquillerput on makeupElle se maquille avant de sortir. She puts on makeup before going out.
se rasershaveIl se rase tous les matins. He shaves every morning.
se couchergo to bedVous vous couchez à quelle heure ? What time do you go to bed?
s'endormirfall asleep (irregular, like dormir)Je m'endors vite après une longue journée. I fall asleep quickly after a long day.
se reposerrestElle veut se reposer un peu. She wants to rest a little.
se dépêcherhurryJe me dépêche, le métro part dans cinq minutes. I'm hurrying, the metro leaves in five minutes.
se préparerget readyNous nous préparons vite le matin. We get ready quickly in the morning.

6 · Feeling / state verb set

VerbMeaningExample
s'appelerbe named (doubled l — see box 4)Je m'appelle Priya. My name is Priya.
s'amuserhave funLes enfants s'amusent au parc. The kids have fun at the park.
s'ennuyerget boredIl s'ennuie le dimanche soir. He gets bored on Sunday evenings.
s'inquiéterworryJe m'inquiète pour mon examen. I'm worried about my exam.
se fâcherget angryIl se fâche facilement. He gets angry easily.
se sentirfeel (irregular, like sentir: je me sens, nous nous sentons)Elle se sent fatiguée. She feels tired.
s'intéresser àbe interested inJe m'intéresse à l'histoire du Canada. I'm interested in Canadian history.
se souvenir deremember (irregular, like venir: je me souviens, ils se souviennent)Nous nous souvenons de notre premier hiver. We remember our first winter.

7 · Reciprocal meaning — "each other" (plural only)

Same pattern, second job: with nous / vous / ils / elles, the pronoun can mean "each other" instead of "-self". Only context tells you which reading is meant.
VerbReflexive (-self)Reciprocal (each other)
se regarderElle se regarde dans le miroir. She looks at herself in the mirror.Les deux amis se regardent. The two friends look at each other.
se voir(rare reflexive: seeing oneself, e.g. on video)Nous nous voyons souvent le week-end. We see each other often on the weekend.
s'aimer(rare reflexive: loving oneself)Ils s'aiment depuis dix ans. They've loved each other for ten years.
se téléphoner / se parler / se rencontrer—Nous nous téléphonons chaque dimanche. We call each other every Sunday.

8 · Negation — ne + pronoun + verb + pas

Recipe: ne + pronoun + verb + pas. The reflexive pronoun stays glued to the verb, inside the ne...pas wrapper. Je ne me lève pas tôt le samedi. I don't get up early on Saturdays.
✗ never — Je me ne lève pas. / Je me lève ne pas.

9 · Questions — the pronoun never moves

Recipe: est-ce que — nothing changes: Est-ce que tu te lèves tôt ? Do you get up early? Inversion — only the subject and verb swap; the reflexive pronoun stays in front of the verb, untouched: Te lèves-tu tôt ? Do you get up early?
✗ never — Lèves-tu te tôt ? (the pronoun cannot jump after the verb)

10 · THE highest-value rule — aller / vouloir / devoir + reflexive infinitive

THE most-tested point in this chapter: conjugated (aller / vouloir / devoir) + pronoun matching the REAL subject + infinitive (never "se"). The verb after stays in the infinitive; only the pronoun changes.
SubjectCorrectEnglish
jeJe vais me lever tôt demain. I'm going to get up early tomorrow.never Je vais se lever...
tuTu dois te dépêcher ! You have to hurry!never Tu dois se dépêcher...
nousNous voulons nous promener au parc. We want to go for a walk in the park.never Nous voulons se promener...
vousVous devez vous coucher plus tôt. You should go to bed earlier.never Vous devez se coucher...
ils / ellesIls vont se préparer pour l'entrevue. They're going to get ready for the interview.correct — "se" matches ils here

11 · Commands (imperative) — quick reference

Positive command: pronoun jumps after the verb, joined by a hyphen, and te → toi: Lève-toi ! Get up! Dépêchons-nous ! Let's hurry! Habillez-vous ! Get dressed!

Negative command: normal order, pronoun stays in front: Ne te lève pas ! Don't get up!

Reflexive verbs, seen

  • This whole tab is pictures, not paragraphs — you already read the rules in Learn and Rules; here you see them.
  • Every reflexive verb is three pieces snapped together, not two: the reflexive pronoun — the little word that shows the action bounces back onto the subject — the stem — the part that carries the meaning and stays put — and the ending — the tail that changes to match the subject.
  • On this page the pronoun is violet, the stem is navy, and the ending is red, so you can watch all three pieces at once.
  • The usual sentence colours still apply too: subject · verb · where / when / what.
  • Turn on 🌐 EN up top to see every translation at once.

1 · Three pieces snapped together — "se laver" across all six subjects

JE

pronounme + stemlav + endinge

Je me lave les mains avant le souper. I wash my hands before dinner.

TU

pronounte + stemlav + endinges

Tu te laves avant de partir au travail. You wash up before leaving for work.

IL / ELLE / ON

pronounse + stemlav + endinge

Elle se lave les cheveux tous les deux jours. She washes her hair every other day.

NOUS

pronounnous + stemlav + endingons

Nous nous lavons les mains en rentrant. We wash our hands when we get home.

VOUS

pronounvous + stemlav + endingez

Vous vous lavez avant ou après le déjeuner ? Do you wash up before or after breakfast?

ILS / ELLES

pronounse + stemlav + endingent

Les enfants se lavent avant le souper. The kids wash up before dinner.

Notice the navy stem "lav" never changes across all six cards — only the violet pronoun on the left and the red ending on the right move to match the subject. Swap lav- for douch-, ras-, repos-, dépêch-, prépar- — same three bricks, same six pronouns, same six endings.

2 · A morning at home — the daily-routine picture-story

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Step 1 · se réveiller

Je me réveille à six heures. I wake up at six.

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Step 2 · se lever

Je me lève tout de suite. I get up right away.

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Step 3 · se doucher

Je me douche vite. I shower quickly.

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Step 4 · s'habiller

Je m'habille pour le travail. I get dressed for work.

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Step 5 · se brosser les dents

Je me brosse les dents. I brush my teeth.

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Step 6 · se dépêcher

Je me dépêche pour le bus. I hurry for the bus.

Every single step needs its own reflexive pronoun — none of these six actions can drop it. Miss one and the sentence sounds cut off, like "I brush... [what?]" instead of "I brush my own teeth."

3 · Stem-change spotlight — "se lever" vs "s'appeler", side by side

Same shape, two different tools. Read down each column: the highlighted rows are where the stem changes shape because the stress lands on it; the plain rows are nous/vous, where the stress shifts onto the ending and the stem stays light.

se lever · e → è

me lève te lèves se lève nous levons vous levez se lèvent

Violet rows carry the accent. The two plain rows — nous, vous — never do.

s'appeler · l → ll

m'appelle t'appelles s'appelle nous appelons vous appelez s'appellent

Gold rows carry the doubled ll. The two plain rows keep a single l.

Same pattern, different disguise: 4 forms change, 2 don't — and the 2 that don't are always nous and vous. Learn that shape once and it explains both verbs (and others like s'inquiéter, e → è before a silent ending).

4 · One verb, two meanings — reflexive vs reciprocal, split card

Se regarder is the clearest example in the whole language: identical spelling, identical pronoun, two completely different pictures in your head. The only thing that tells them apart is the context clue underneath.

Reflexive · "-self"

se regarder

Elle se regarde dans le miroir avant de sortir. She looks at herself in the mirror before going out.

Context clue: one person + un miroir (a mirror) → the action bounces back onto her.

Reciprocal · "each other"

se regarder

Les deux amis se regardent sans rien dire. The two friends look at each other without saying a word.

Context clue: two people (les deux amis) + no mirror → the action passes between them, not back onto one person.

Same spelling, same pronoun, two pictures. A plural subject is your signal to at least consider the reciprocal reading — but only the sentence around it (a mirror? two named people?) tells you for sure. Se voir, se parler, s'aimer, se téléphoner, se rencontrer work exactly the same way.

5 · Negation, taken apart — ne + pronoun + verb + pas

Read this row like a sentence built from blocks. The pronoun stays glued to the verb, and the whole "ne...pronoun...verb" block sits sealed between ne and pas.

négationne pronounme verbelève négationpas

Je ne me lève pas tôt le samedi. I don't get up early on Saturdays.

Never split the pronoun away from the verb: Je me ne lève pas. The pronoun and the verb move together, as one unit.

6 · Questions, taken apart — the pronoun refuses to move

In an inversion question, only the verb and the subject swap places and get a hyphen. The reflexive pronoun is not part of that swap — it stays locked in front of the verb the whole time.

pronoun · stays putte verbelèves sujet · inverted-tu

Te lèves-tu tôt ? Do you get up early?

The pronoun never jumps after the verb: Lèves-tu te tôt ? is always wrong. Est-ce que tu te lèves tôt ? is the easier, equally correct alternative — nothing moves at all.

7 · THE centrepiece — the pronoun tracks the REAL subject after aller / vouloir / devoir

sujetJe aller · conjugatedvais pronoun · matches JEme infinitif · never changeslever

Je vais me lever tôt demain. I'm going to get up early tomorrow.

sujetTu devoir · conjugateddois pronoun · matches TUte infinitif · never changesdépêcher

Tu dois te dépêcher, l'autobus arrive ! You have to hurry, the bus is coming!

sujetNous aller · conjugatedallons pronoun · matches NOUSnous infinitif · never changeslever

Nous allons nous lever tôt pour le vol. We're going to get up early for the flight.

sujetIls vouloir · conjugatedveulent pronoun · matches ILSse infinitif · never changesreposer

Ils veulent se reposer avant le long trajet. They want to rest before the long drive.

Read down the four cards above: subject changes → pronoun changes right along with it → but the infinitive in the last brick is identical in every single card ("lever", "dépêcher", "lever", "reposer" — plain, unconjugated). That is the whole rule in one glance: the verb freezes, the pronoun never does. Never write Je vais se lever — "se" belongs to "il/ils", not to "je".

1 · Stem-changing reflexives — se lever, s'appeler, s'inquiéter (the "boot" pattern)

When you'll meet it: the very first time you conjugate se lever, s'appeler, or s'inquiéter — three verbs you'll use constantly (getting up, giving your name, saying you're worried), and all three quietly change their spelling depending on which subject you use.

  • How it works: in French grammar books this pattern is nicknamed the "boot" pattern (or "shoe" pattern), because of the shape it makes if you draw a line around the forms that change.
  • Picture the six subjects arranged in the usual two columns — je / nous on top, tu / vous in the middle, il-elle-on / ils-elles on the bottom.
  • Four of those six forms — je, tu, il/elle/on, ils/elles — sit around the outside and change their stem.
  • The other two — nous and vous — sit in the middle and stay perfectly plain.
  • Draw a line around the outside four and it traces a boot shape, with nous/vous tucked safely inside where the foot would go.
  • The reason is about sound, not spelling for its own sake: in the outside four forms, your voice stresses the stem, so it needs the "heavier", more open version.
  • In nous/vous, the stress shifts onto the ending, so the stem can stay light and plain.

Inside the boot — changes

je · tu · il/elle/on · ils/elles

Outside the boot — stays plain

nous · vous

Subjectse lever (e → è)s'appeler (l → ll)s'inquiéter (é → è)
jeme lèvem'appellem'inquiète
tute lèvest'appellest'inquiètes
il / elle / onse lèves'appelles'inquiète
nous (outside the boot)nous levonsnous appelonsnous inquiétons
vous (outside the boot)vous levezvous appelezvous inquiétez
ils / ellesse lèvents'appellents'inquiètent

2 · Irregular reflexives that borrow their stem from a non-reflexive irregular verb

  • When you'll meet it: as soon as you try to conjugate s'endormir (to fall asleep), se sentir (to feel), or se souvenir de (to remember).
  • All three are built directly on top of an irregular verb you may already know without the pronoun — dormir, sentir, and venir — so the irregularity was never about the reflexive pronoun at all.
  • The pronoun just rides in front, completely normal; the whole surprise is buried in the verb itself.

How it works: add the matching reflexive pronoun in front of the irregular verb's own conjugation, exactly as it already behaves without "se". Nothing about the irregular pattern changes just because a pronoun is now attached.

s'endormir (to fall asleep) — built on dormir, drops the last stem consonant in the singular

SubjectPronoun + stem + endingFull formEnglish
jem'endorsm'endorsI fall asleep
tut'endorst'endorsyou fall asleep
il / elle / ons'endorts'endorthe / she falls asleep
nousnous endormonsnous endormonswe fall asleep (consonant stays)
vousvous endormezvous endormezyou fall asleep (consonant stays)
ils / elless'endorments'endormentthey fall asleep

se sentir (to feel) — built on sentir, same drop-the-consonant pattern

SubjectFull formEnglish
jeme sensI feel
il / elle / onse senthe / she feels
nousnous sentonswe feel
ils / ellesse sententthey feel

se souvenir de (to remember) — built on venir, the three-way stem shift

SubjectFull formEnglish
jeme souviensI remember
tute souviensyou remember
il / elle / onse souvienthe / she remembers
nousnous souvenonswe remember (back to plain "ven-")
vousvous souvenezyou remember (back to plain "ven-")
ils / ellesse souviennentthey remember (doubled n)

3 · The pronoun still has to change after aller / vouloir / devoir / aimer / pouvoir

  • When you'll meet it: every time a reflexive verb rides along after a conjugated aller, vouloir, devoir, aimer, or pouvoir — which is extremely often, because these five verbs are some of the most common ways to talk about plans, wants, obligations, preferences, and ability.
  • This is flagged as the single highest-stakes point in this whole chapter on the TEF and TCF — examiners specifically listen for it.
  • How it works: only the first verb (aller, vouloir, devoir, aimer, pouvoir) gets conjugated to match the subject.
  • The reflexive verb after it stays a plain infinitive — but its pronoun is not frozen as "se".
  • The pronoun has to travel with the real subject of the sentence, exactly the same way it would if the reflexive verb were standing alone and conjugated.
SubjectConjugated verbPronounInfinitiveFull sentence
jepeux (pouvoir)mereposerJe peux me reposer un peu cet après-midi. I can rest a little this afternoon.
tuaimes (aimer)tepromenerTu aimes te promener le dimanche matin ? Do you like going for a walk on Sunday mornings?
elledoit (devoir)sepréparerElle doit se préparer avant l'entrevue de demain. She has to get ready before tomorrow's interview.
nousvoulons (vouloir)nouscoucherNous voulons nous coucher tôt ce soir. We want to go to bed early tonight.
ilsvont (aller)semarierIls vont se marier l'été prochain. They're going to get married next summer.
✓ correct — Je peux me reposer maintenant. I can rest now.
✗ wrong — Je peux se reposer maintenant. "Se" belongs to "il/elle/ils" — it can never sit next to "je" as the subject.

4 · Reflexive or reciprocal? When the SAME sentence can mean two different things

  • When you'll meet it: any time you use a plural subject (nous, vous, ils, elles) with a reflexive verb that could plausibly describe two people doing something to each other, rather than to themselves.
  • Nothing in the spelling or the pronoun changes between the two readings — the sentence is identical on paper.
  • Only the situation you're describing (and sometimes one extra clue word) tells a listener which one you mean.
  • How it works: a plural subject is your first hint to at least consider the reciprocal ("each other") reading, especially with verbs that are naturally "two-person" actions — talking, seeing, understanding, writing, arguing.
  • If you want to make the reciprocal meaning unmistakable, French has a small phrase you can bolt on: l'un l'autre (literally "the one the other" = "each other").
  • Adding it removes all doubt.
VerbReflexive reading (-self)Reciprocal reading (each other)
se comprendreElle se comprend mieux depuis sa thérapie. She understands herself better since starting therapy.Les collègues se comprennent bien, même en anglais. The colleagues understand each other well, even in English.
s'écrireChacune écrit dans son propre journal ; elles s'écrivent pour se souvenir. Each writes in her own journal; they write to themselves to remember. (rare, needs extra context)Ma sœur et moi, nous nous écrivons chaque semaine. My sister and I write to each other every week.
se disputer—Les enfants se disputent souvent pour la télécommande. The kids often argue with each other over the remote.

Two genuinely ambiguous sentences, side by side with what forces each reading:

5 · Commands (imperative) — the pronoun jumps after the verb, and te becomes toi

When you'll meet it: anytime you tell someone to do something reflexive — "Get up!", "Get dressed!", "Hurry!" — or, extremely often on the TEF speaking section, when you reassure someone with Ne t'inquiète pas ! ("Don't worry!").

  • How it works: in a positive command, the reflexive pronoun jumps to after the verb and attaches with a hyphen — and the tu-pronoun changes shape from te to toi.
  • In a negative command, everything goes back to the normal order: ne + pronoun + verb + pas, pronoun sitting quietly in front, exactly like any other negative sentence.
SubjectVerbPositive (pronoun after, hyphenated)Negative (pronoun in front, normal order)
tuse leverLève-toi ! Get up!Ne te lève pas ! Don't get up!
tuse dépêcherDépêche-toi ! Hurry up!Ne te dépêche pas, on a le temps. Don't hurry, we have time.
nousse dépêcherDépêchons-nous ! Let's hurry!Ne nous dépêchons pas trop. Let's not rush too much.
vouss'habillerHabillez-vous chaudement ! Get dressed warmly!Ne vous habillez pas trop léger, il fait froid. Don't dress too light, it's cold.
tuse coucherCouche-toi, il est tard ! Go to bed, it's late!Ne te couche pas trop tard avant l'examen. Don't go to bed too late before the exam.
The one to memorise above all others: Ne t'inquiète pas ! Don't worry! — one of the most common reassuring phrases in everyday French, and it's a negative reflexive command: ne + t' + inquiète + pas, pronoun staying calmly in front, exactly the way the rule predicts.

6 · Some verbs mean something completely different with and without "se"

  • When you'll meet it: whenever you meet a verb you already know in its plain form — laver, appeler, réveiller, coucher — and it suddenly shows up with "se" attached.
  • It's tempting to assume the meaning barely changes.
  • Sometimes it just adds the reflexive "-self" idea, as you'd expect.
  • But sometimes it swaps who the action is landing on so thoroughly that the two versions feel like two separate verbs that happen to share a spelling.
  • How it works: the plain verb usually does the action to someone or something else; adding "se" turns the subject into the one receiving the action instead.
  • Read each pair below with that lens: who is doing the washing/calling/waking/putting-to-bed, and who is it landing on?
Plain verbMeaningReflexive formMeaning
laverto wash something/someone elsese laverto wash oneself
appelerto call someone (phone, or call out to)s'appelerto be named
réveillerto wake someone else upse réveillerto wake (oneself) up
coucherto put someone to bedse coucherto go to bed (oneself)
ennuyerto bother / annoy someones'ennuyerto be bored (oneself)
💡 A fast way to check which one you need: ask "is the subject doing this to someone/something else, or is it landing back on the subject itself?" If it's landing back on the subject, the reflexive pronoun has to be there — leaving it out is one of the most common slips in this whole chapter.

1 · "Se laver" in full — every subject, real contexts

First, the template verb from the Learn tab, but now in full sentences instead of a bare table. Watch the pronoun change with every subject while the stem "lav" never moves.

2 · Daily-routine verbs — waking up, getting ready, going to bed

This is the classic set for describing a typical day: se réveiller, se lever, se doucher, s'habiller, se brosser les dents, se coucher, se dépêcher. Remember that se lever gets the accent (è) in every form except nous/vous.

3 · Feeling and state verbs — names, moods, memory

Now the feeling/state set: s'appeler, s'amuser, s'ennuyer, s'inquiéter, se sentir, se souvenir — plus se fâcher and s'intéresser à, which follow the same pattern.

4 · Reciprocal "each other" — only makes sense in the plural

Same pronoun, second job: with nous/vous/ils/elles, the pronoun can mean "each other" instead of "-self". A plural subject is your clue to check for this reading.

5 · Negation — ne + pronoun + verb + pas

The reflexive pronoun stays glued to the verb inside the ne...pas wrapper: ne + pronoun + verb + pas.

6 · Questions — est-ce que and inversion, the pronoun never moves

Est-ce que changes nothing. With inversion, only the subject and verb swap places — the reflexive pronoun stays in front of the verb.

7 · Aller / vouloir / devoir + reflexive infinitive — the pronoun must change

The single most-tested point in the chapter: the verb after aller/vouloir/devoir stays in the infinitive, but the pronoun in front of it always matches the real subject — never "se" by default.

8 · Commands — positive pronoun jumps after, negative it stays in front

Positive command: pronoun moves after the verb with a hyphen, and te becomes toi. Negative command: normal order, pronoun stays in front.

9 · Same verb, plain vs. reflexive — the meaning changes with the pronoun

Many verbs exist in both a plain form (acting on something else) and a reflexive form (acting on the subject). Compare each pair.

10 · Mixed daily routines — several reflexive verbs in one sentence

Real speech and writing chain several reflexive verbs together to describe a whole routine, exactly like you'll do on the TEF speaking and writing sections.

Tally for this tab: 12 + 30 + 20 + 15 + 15 + 15 + 25 + 12 + 16 + 25 = 185 full French example sentences across 10 subsections.

Translation traps (English → French)

Je lave moi. → Je me lave. — English says "myself" as its own separate word after the verb. French folds that idea into a small pronoun that sits in front of the verb instead — it's part of the verb's shape, not a stand-alone word.
Je vais se lever tôt. → Je vais me lever tôt. — in English, "I'm going to get up" doesn't repeat any pronoun at all, so it's easy to forget French still needs one — and that it has to match "je," not stay frozen as "se."
Tu appelles comment ? → Tu t'appelles comment ? — English "What are you called?" / "What's your name?" has no reflexive word anywhere. But French treats "to be named" as reflexive: s'appeler, literally "to call oneself."
Tu lèves-toi ! → Lève-toi ! — an English command keeps "you" invisible ("Get up!"), so it's tempting to add "tu" alongside the command form in French too. In a command, the subject pronoun disappears completely; only the reflexive pronoun stays, moved after the verb.
Nous voyons nous chaque semaine. → Nous nous voyons chaque semaine. — English "each other" comes after the verb. The French reflexive/reciprocal pronoun always comes before the verb, never trailing behind it like the English phrase.

Habits from Hindi / Punjabi that sneak into French

  • Hindi/Punjabi don't require a separate little word for "wash yourself"-type actions — the reflexive idea often isn't marked at all, so it feels optional in French too, easy to just drop:
  • je lave / il rase / nous levons → je me lave / il se rase / nous nous levons
  • Cue: a reflexive verb always keeps its pronoun (me/te/se/nous/vous/se) glued in front of the verb — never drop it, even when the sentence sounds complete without it.
  • A helper word like "chahiye/chaahida" (need/must/want) in Hindi/Punjabi is followed by the action with no pronoun bookkeeping to update, so after aller/vouloir/devoir the reflexive pronoun feels like it should just stay frozen as "se":
  • je vais se lever / tu dois se dépêcher → je vais me lever / tu dois te dépêcher
  • Cue: after aller / vouloir / devoir + infinitive, the reflexive pronoun always changes to match the real subject of the sentence — it is never left as "se."
  • Negation words in Hindi/Punjabi tend to sit together near the verb as one block, so it's tempting to keep "ne" glued right next to the pronoun and push both together toward "pas," instead of splitting the sentence around the whole pronoun-plus-verb group:
  • je me ne lève pas → je ne me lève pas
  • Cue: the pattern is always ne + pronoun + verb + pas — "ne" opens the sandwich before the pronoun, "pas" closes it after the verb.
  • Because Hindi/Punjabi don't reuse the same word for "-self" and "each other," it's easy to miss that French recycles the very same reflexive pronoun for both jobs — so a plural sentence's "each other" meaning can slide right past unnoticed:
  • Ils se voient. (read as "they see themselves," missing the point) → Ils se voient souvent. = They see each other often.

  • Cue: when the subject is plural and two (or more) people could logically act on one another, check whether "each other" fits better than "-self" — the pronoun looks identical either way.
The four switch-offs to drill: ① never drop the reflexive pronoun, even in a short sentence · ② after aller/vouloir/devoir the pronoun must match the real subject, not stay "se" · ③ negation splits around the whole group: ne + pronoun + verb + pas · ④ a plural reflexive pronoun can mean "each other" — read the context before assuming "-self."

Mistake bank — 80 to fix for good

A · Forgetting the reflexive pronoun entirely

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je lave le matin.Je me lave le matin."wash yourself" needs the pronoun — the action bounces back onto "je"
Il rase avant le travail.Il se rase avant le travail.shaving oneself needs se glued in front of the verb
Nous levons à six heures.Nous nous levons à six heures."get up" is reflexive: nous nous levons, not nous levons
Tu habilles vite le matin.Tu t'habilles vite le matin."get dressed" = s'habiller; the pronoun can't be dropped
Elle prépare pour l'entrevue.Elle se prépare pour l'entrevue."get ready" needs se, or the sentence just means "she prepares (something)"
Vous couchez tard le vendredi.Vous vous couchez tard le vendredi."go to bed" = se coucher, pronoun required
Ils amusent au parc.Ils s'amusent au parc."have fun" = s'amuser, always with the pronoun
Je réveille à sept heures.Je me réveille à sept heures.without "me," réveiller means "I wake someone else up"

B · Wrong pronoun, not matching the subject

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Il me lave le matin.Il se lave le matin.the pronoun must match "il," not "je"
Je se lève à six heures.Je me lève à six heures."je" pairs only with "me," never "se"
Nous te préparons pour le travail.Nous nous préparons pour le travail."nous" pairs with "nous," not "te"
Elle nous habille vite.Elle s'habille vite."elle" needs "se," not "nous"
Vous se douchez avant de sortir.Vous vous douchez avant de sortir."vous" pairs with "vous," never "se"
Tu se dépêches trop.Tu te dépêches trop."tu" pairs with "te," never "se"
Ils me couchent tôt le dimanche.Ils se couchent tôt le dimanche."ils" needs "se," not "me"
Nous se reposons le samedi.Nous nous reposons le samedi."nous" pairs with "nous," never "se"

C · Forgetting to change "se" after aller / vouloir / devoir (highest-stakes)

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je vais se lever tôt demain.Je vais me lever tôt demain.the pronoun matches the real subject "je," not "il/elle"
Tu dois se dépêcher, l'autobus arrive.Tu dois te dépêcher, l'autobus arrive."tu" needs "te," even in front of an infinitive
Nous voulons se reposer ce week-end.Nous voulons nous reposer ce week-end."nous" needs "nous," never frozen "se"
Vous devez se dépêcher pour le rendez-vous.Vous devez vous dépêcher pour le rendez-vous."vous" needs "vous," matching the real subject
Je veux se doucher avant de sortir.Je veux me doucher avant de sortir."je" needs "me," the infinitive doesn't freeze the pronoun
Nous devons se lever tôt lundi.Nous devons nous lever tôt lundi."nous" needs "nous" in front of the infinitive
Tu vas se coucher trop tard.Tu vas te coucher trop tard."tu" needs "te," not the infinitive's "se"
Vous voulez se reposer un peu.Vous voulez vous reposer un peu."vous" needs "vous," matching the subject exactly

D · Missing the elision before a vowel (m'/t'/s')

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je me appelle Sarita.Je m'appelle Sarita."me" elides to m' before a vowel sound
Il se ennuie le dimanche.Il s'ennuie le dimanche."se" elides to s' before a vowel sound
Tu te habilles chaudement.Tu t'habilles chaudement."te" elides to t' before a silent-h verb
Elle se inquiète pour l'examen.Elle s'inquiète pour l'examen."se" elides to s' before "inquiète"
Ils se amusent au parc.Ils s'amusent au parc."se" elides to s' before "amusent"
Je me endors vite le soir.Je m'endors vite le soir."me" elides to m' before "endors"
Tu te intéresses à la musique.Tu t'intéresses à la musique."te" elides to t' before "intéresses"
Il se appelle Amandeep.Il s'appelle Amandeep."se" elides to s' before "appelle"

E · Wrong "pas" placement in negation

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je me ne lève pas tôt.Je ne me lève pas tôt."ne" goes before the pronoun, not between pronoun and verb
Il se ne rase pas le dimanche.Il ne se rase pas le dimanche.pattern is ne + pronoun + verb + pas
Nous nous ne dépêchons pas.Nous ne nous dépêchons pas."ne" must open the whole group, before "nous"
Tu te ne couches pas assez tôt.Tu ne te couches pas assez tôt."ne" comes first, right before "te"
Elle se ne maquille pas pour le travail.Elle ne se maquille pas pour le travail."ne" opens before "se," "pas" closes after the verb
Vous vous ne reposez pas le week-end.Vous ne vous reposez pas le week-end."ne" belongs before "vous," not after it
Je me lève ne pas tôt le samedi.Je ne me lève pas tôt le samedi."ne" cannot come after the verb — it opens the sandwich
Ils se ne parlent pas souvent.Ils ne se parlent pas souvent."ne" goes before "se," "pas" after "parlent"

F · Missing the stem change in se lever / s'appeler

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je me leve à six heures.Je me lève à six heures.se lever takes an accent grave: lève, not leve
Tu te leves trop tard.Tu te lèves trop tard.the "e" before the ending needs the grave accent: lèves
Il se leve avant tout le monde.Il se lève avant tout le monde.singular forms all take lève, stressed and accented
Ils se levent à sept heures.Ils se lèvent à sept heures.ils/elles also keeps the accent: lèvent, not levent
Je m'apelle Preet.Je m'appelle Preet.s'appeler doubles the "l": appelle, not apelle
Tu t'apelles comment ?Tu t'appelles comment ?doubled "l" everywhere except nous/vous: appelles
Il s'apelle Manpreet.Il s'appelle Manpreet.singular and ils/elles forms double the "l": appelle
Ils s'apellent Raj et Simran.Ils s'appellent Raj et Simran.ils/elles keeps the doubled "l": appellent, not apellent

G · Confusing reflexive and reciprocal meaning without noticing context

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Il se voit avec son ami chaque semaine. (trying: "they see each other")Ils se voient chaque semaine."each other" needs a plural subject — a singular "il" can only mean "he sees himself"
Elle se téléphone tous les soirs. (trying: "we call each other")Nous nous téléphonons tous les soirs.wrong subject/pronoun pairing erases the reciprocal meaning entirely
Ils se regardent dans le miroir. (meant: each looks at himself alone)Chacun se regarde dans son miroir.without a clue like "chacun" (each one), a plural subject defaults to sounding reciprocal
Nous nous aimons beaucoup nos parents.Nous aimons beaucoup nos parents.s'aimer only means "the subjects love each other" — to love someone outside the subject, drop the pronoun
Je me rencontre avec mon collègue.Mon collègue et moi, nous nous rencontrons.se rencontrer is reciprocal and needs two people as the subject; "je" alone can't be reciprocal
Elle et moi, elle se parle beaucoup.Elle et moi, nous nous parlons beaucoup."each other" needs "nous," matching the combined subject "elle et moi"
Ils se maquillent dans le miroir pour eux-mêmes, mais la phrase sonne comme s'ils se maquillaient l'un l'autre.Chacun se maquille devant son miroir.add "chacun" to block the reciprocal misreading when only "-self" is meant
Nous nous lavons la voiture ensemble. (trying: "we wash each other's car")Nous lavons la voiture ensemble.washing a car is neither reflexive nor reciprocal — it's a plain object, so drop the pronoun

H · Wrong pronoun position in a positive command

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Te lève tôt demain !Lève-toi tôt demain !positive command: pronoun moves after the verb, hyphenated, and "te" → "toi"
Te dépêche, on est en retard !Dépêche-toi, on est en retard !same flip: pronoun after the verb, "te" becomes "toi"
Vous habillez-vous chaudement !Habillez-vous chaudement !drop the extra subject "vous" in front — only the command form plus pronoun stays
Nous nous dépêchons !Dépêchons-nous !"let's hurry" is a command: pronoun moves after, hyphenated
Te couche, il est tard !Couche-toi, il est tard !"te" becomes "toi" and jumps after the verb in a command
Se lève, il est sept heures !Lève-toi, il est sept heures !a command always uses "toi," never "se," and it trails the verb
Vous vous reposez un peu !Reposez-vous un peu !command form drops the subject and hyphenates the pronoun after
Te prépare vite !Prépare-toi vite !"te" → "toi," moved after the verb with a hyphen

I · Using a non-reflexive verb where French needs reflexive, or the reverse

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Je me lave la voiture le samedi.Je lave la voiture le samedi.the car needs washing, not you — no reflexive pronoun here
Elle me couche son bébé à huit heures.Elle couche son bébé à huit heures.putting the baby to bed is done to the baby, not to herself
Nous nous réveillons nos enfants avant l'école.Nous réveillons nos enfants avant l'école.waking the kids is an action on them, so drop "nous"
Tu habilles avant de sortir.Tu t'habilles avant de sortir.with no object named, "get dressed" needs the reflexive pronoun back
Il prépare le café, puis il prépare pour le travail.Il prépare le café, puis il se prépare pour le travail.the second "prepare" means getting himself ready, so it needs "se"
Je me lève ma fille à sept heures.Je lève ma fille à sept heures.lifting your daughter up is done to her, not to "me"
Elle se maquille sa fille pour la fête.Elle maquille sa fille pour la fête.putting makeup on someone else drops the pronoun
Nous couchons à vingt-deux heures.Nous nous couchons à vingt-deux heures.going to bed yourselves needs "nous" back — it isn't optional here

J · Wrong pronoun in inversion questions

✗ Wrong✓ RightWhy
Lèves-tu te tôt ?Te lèves-tu tôt ?inversion flips verb and subject, but the reflexive pronoun stays in front of the verb
Couches-tu te tard le vendredi ?Te couches-tu tard le vendredi ?"te" cannot jump after the verb — only "tu" and the verb swap
Appelle-t-il se comment ?Comment s'appelle-t-il ?"se" stays glued in front of the verb even in an inverted question
Dépêchez-vous vous pour l'autobus ?Vous dépêchez-vous pour l'autobus ?only "vous" (the subject) and the verb swap places, not the pronoun
Réveillons-nous nous à six heures ?Nous réveillons-nous à six heures ?the reflexive pronoun never moves after the verb in a question
Habilles-tu te chaudement en hiver ?T'habilles-tu chaudement en hiver ?"te" stays in front, only "tu" hops after the verb
Amusent-ils se le week-end ?S'amusent-ils le week-end ?"se" stays put; only "ils" moves after the verb
Prépare-t-elle se pour l'entrevue ?Se prépare-t-elle pour l'entrevue ?"se" leads the verb; "elle" is the only piece that inverts

Deep-dive — the 5 errors that cost the most

1 · Pronoun-matching after aller / vouloir / devoir: the single highest-stakes rule

je vais se lever · tu dois se dépêcher
je vais me lever · tu dois te dépêcher
  • Why
    • a reflexive verb's dictionary form is always written with "se" (se lever, se dépêcher), so that's the shape you memorise first — and it's tempting to leave it untouched even when it follows aller, vouloir, or devoir.
    • But "se" is only a placeholder for "somebody"; the moment you attach a real subject, the pronoun must switch to match that subject, exactly the way it would in a simple present-tense sentence.
    • The verb itself can stay a plain infinitive — lever, dépêcher — but the pronoun in front of it never freezes.
  • Fixwhenever you see aller/vouloir/devoir + [a reflexive infinitive], pause on the pronoun first and ask "who is the real subject?" before saying the rest.
  • Micro-drilltake one sentence — "je vais me lever tôt" — and swap only the subject six times (tu, il, nous, vous, ils), changing the pronoun each time while the verb "lever" stays untouched.
  • Speakingthis pattern appears constantly when you talk about plans or obligations ("I have to get ready," "we're going to rest"), so drill it until the correct pronoun comes out automatically, without translating in your head.
  • Writingafter every aller/vouloir/devoir, circle the reflexive pronoun that follows and check it against the sentence's real subject — not against "se."
  • TEF riskthis is the most frequently tested reflexive-verb point on the exam, because it combines two skills at once (infinitive structures and reflexive pronouns) — examiners listen for it specifically.

2 · The hidden stem changes in se lever and s'appeler

je me leve · je m'apelle
je me lève · je m'appelle
  • Why
    • because reflexive verbs already add a whole new piece (the pronoun) in front of the verb, it's easy to assume the verb ending itself behaves like any plain -ER verb and stays perfectly regular.
    • But se lever and s'appeler are stem-changing -ER verbs underneath their reflexive pronoun, exactly like their non-reflexive cousins: lever needs an accent grave (lève) everywhere except nous/vous, and appeler doubles its "l" (appelle) in those same spots.
    • The reflexive pronoun doesn't cancel or hide that spelling change — it just sits in front of it.
  • Fixtreat the reflexive pronoun and the stem change as two separate jobs on the same sentence: first pick the right pronoun for the subject, then apply the accent or double letter to the verb exactly as you would without the pronoun.
  • Micro-drillconjugate se lever and s'appeler fully, all six subjects, saying the pronoun and the stem change out loud together each time (je me lève, nous nous levons, ils se lèvent).
  • Speaking"what's your name" and "what time do you get up" are two of the most common opening questions in a conversation, so getting m'appelle and me lève automatic pays off immediately.
  • Writingproofread every appearance of these two verbs for the missing accent or missing doubled letter — it's a fast, easy-to-catch fix once you know to look.
  • TEF riskboth verbs appear in nearly every "introduce yourself" and "describe your day" prompt, so a spelling slip here repeats across the whole response.

3 · Negation placement: ne + pronoun + verb + pas

je me ne lève pas · je me lève ne pas
je ne me lève pas
  • Why
    • the reflexive pronoun is a new piece sitting between the subject and the verb, and it's not obvious where "ne" and "pas" should slot in around it.
    • The safe rule: treat the pronoun and the verb as one glued unit, then wrap "ne...pas" around the whole unit, exactly the way you'd wrap it around a plain verb.
    • "Ne" opens right before the pronoun; "pas" closes right after the verb.
  • Fixsay the whole positive sentence first (je me lève), then physically add "ne" at the very front of that unit and "pas" at the very end, without touching the order of the pronoun and verb in between.
  • Micro-drilltake five reflexive sentences and negate each one out loud, narrating the steps: "ne — before the pronoun — me lève — pas — after the verb."
  • Speakingnegation comes up constantly when describing your routine ("I don't get up early," "he doesn't shave on Sundays"), so this placement needs to be automatic, not something you calculate mid-sentence.
  • Writingscan every negative reflexive sentence and confirm "ne" is the very first word of the negated part and "pas" is the very last, with the pronoun and verb untouched in the middle.
  • TEF riska misplaced "ne" or "pas" is one of the most visible written errors, because it breaks a pattern the exam expects to be automatic by this level.

4 · Missing the reflexive pronoun altogether

je lave · il rase · nous levons
je me lave · il se rase · nous nous levons
  • Why
    • Hindi and Punjabi don't mark "the action bounces back on the subject" with a dedicated word the way French does, so it's genuinely easy to build a perfectly good-sounding French sentence and simply forget the pronoun was ever needed — especially since the verb ending alone already looks "complete."
    • But without the pronoun, many of these verbs either mean something different ("je lave" = I wash something, unnamed) or aren't proper French at all.
  • Fixwhenever the English verb could take "myself/yourself/etc." after it (wash, get up, get dressed, hurry, rest), assume French needs a reflexive pronoun until you've checked — treat it as the default, not the exception.
  • Micro-drillwrite ten routine sentences in English first ("I wash," "he shaves," "we get up"), then translate each one, forcing yourself to insert the pronoun every time before writing the verb.
  • Speakingbuild the habit of saying the pronoun and verb as one breath-unit ("me-lave," "se-rase") so the pronoun is never a separate, skippable step.
  • Writingreread your paragraph specifically hunting for daily-routine verbs with no pronoun in front — they are almost always missing one.
  • TEF riskthis is the single most common reflexive-verb error overall, and it appears in nearly every "describe your day" writing and speaking task.

5 · Reflexive vs. reciprocal: missing the "each other" reading

il se voit avec son ami (meant: they see each other)
ils se voient chaque semaine
  • Why
    • French reuses the exact same reflexive pronoun for two different jobs: "-self" (je me lave = I wash myself) and "each other" (ils se voient = they see each other) — with no extra word to flag which meaning is intended.
    • The only clue is the subject and the context: a plural subject where two or more people could logically act on one another usually signals the reciprocal reading, while a single-person action defaults to "-self."
    • Missing this switch means either building the wrong subject (keeping it singular when "each other" needs two people) or missing the "each other" meaning of a plural sentence entirely.
  • Fixwhenever you see a plural subject with a reflexive pronoun, pause and ask "does this describe one group's shared action on themselves, or two people doing something to each other?" — the verb (se voir, se parler, s'aimer, se téléphoner, se rencontrer) is often a strong hint that reciprocal is intended.
  • Micro-drillwrite five sentences with "nous/ils/elles + reflexive verb" and label each one either "-self" or "each other," then say the matching English translation out loud.
  • Speakingreciprocal reflexives are the natural way to describe relationships ("we call each other," "they love each other") — a favourite topic in speaking prompts about family and friends.
  • Writingif your sentence could be read either way and the context doesn't make it obvious, add a clarifying word like "chacun" (each one) for "-self" or keep the plural subject explicit for "each other."
  • TEF riskthis distinction is subtle and often untested directly, but misreading it can make an otherwise correct sentence say the opposite of what you meant.
Turn each miss into a drill: whenever you make one of these, do 5 of that type in the Drills tab, then re-check yourself two days later.

Speaking practice — make the pronoun automatic, not an afterthought

1 · Conjugation ladders (say all six lines out loud)

Ladder A — one reflexive verb, all six subjects: se lever (to get up)

  • Say each rung out loud, going down.
  • Listen for the accent arriving in the singular and ils/elles forms (lève) and disappearing in nous/vous (levons/levez) — that's the stem change from Section 3 of the Learn tab, and saying it out loud is what makes it stick:
  • Je me lève à six heures et demie. I get up at half past six.
  • Tu te lèves avant ou après moi ? Do you get up before or after me?
  • Il se lève tôt pour aller au travail. He gets up early to go to work.
  • Nous nous levons ensemble avant l'école des enfants. We get up together before the kids' school.
  • Vous vous levez à quelle heure le samedi ? What time do you get up on Saturdays?
  • Ils se lèvent tard pendant les vacances. They get up late during vacation.

Now do the same ladder with se laver (no stem change) and feel how much simpler it is — only the pronoun changes, the ending is always the plain -ER pattern.

Ladder B — one fixed sentence, swap the subject: aller + se préparer

  • Keep the verb se préparer (to get ready) and the near-future frame aller + infinitive the same, and change only the subject each time — watch the pronoun switch to match.
  • This is the exact skill from Section 8 of the Learn tab, the single highest-value point in the chapter:
  • Je vais me préparer pour l'entrevue ce soir. I'm going to get ready for the interview tonight.
  • Tu vas te préparer avant ou après le souper ? Are you going to get ready before or after dinner?
  • Elle va se préparer très vite ce matin. She's going to get ready very quickly this morning.
  • Nous allons nous préparer ensemble avant de sortir. We're going to get ready together before going out.
  • Ils vont se préparer toute la soirée pour la fête. They're going to get ready all evening for the party.

Notice préparer itself never changes — it's frozen in the infinitive the whole way down. Only the pronoun in front of it tracks the subject. Now run the same ladder again with vouloir or devoir instead of aller — the pronoun rule is identical.

2 · Quick answers — reply out loud in under 3 seconds

Answer out loud… (English cue)A correct French answer (say it fast)
What time do you get up?Je me lève à six heures et demie. I get up at half past six.
Are you going to get ready now?Oui, je vais me préparer tout de suite. Yes, I'm going to get ready right away.
Do you and your friend call each other often?Oui, nous nous téléphonons chaque dimanche. Yes, we call each other every Sunday.
What's your name?Je m'appelle Priya. My name is Priya.
Do you worry about the exam?Oui, je m'inquiète un peu pour l'examen. Yes, I'm a little worried about the exam.
What time do you go to bed?Je me couche vers onze heures. I go to bed around eleven.
Do you and your partner see each other every day?Bien sûr, nous nous voyons tous les soirs. Of course, we see each other every evening.
Are you going to rest this weekend?Oui, je vais me reposer samedi après-midi. Yes, I'm going to rest Saturday afternoon.

3 · The centrepiece — "describe your typical day" (talk for one minute)

🎬 The scenario

Talk for one minute describing your typical day. Go in order:

  1. waking up and getting out of bed (se réveiller, se lever)
  2. getting ready (se doucher, se laver, s'habiller, se brosser les dents, se maquiller/se raser, se dépêcher — pick what fits you)
  3. something in the middle of the day using a feeling verb (s'ennuyer, s'inquiéter, s'amuser)
  4. the evening winding down (se reposer, se coucher, s'endormir)
  5. one plan for tomorrow or the weekend using aller/vouloir/devoir + reflexive infinitive, with the pronoun matching "je."

Speak the full minute out loud now, then reveal a sample. (This is one good way to say it — not the only way.)

Bonjour ! Alors, ma journée typique commence tôt : je me réveille à six heures et je me lève tout de suite, parce que je n'aime pas traîner au lit. Je me douche, je m'habille et je me brosse les dents en cinq minutes, parce que l'autobus arrive à sept heures moins le quart et je dois me dépêcher. Le matin, au travail, je m'ennuie un peu pendant les réunions, mais l'après-midi passe vite. Le soir, ma femme et moi, nous nous préparons le souper ensemble, et on se parle de notre journée. Après le souper, je me repose un peu devant la télévision, puis je me couche vers onze heures — je m'endors presque tout de suite parce que je suis fatigué. Ce week-end, je vais me reposer samedi matin, et nous allons nous promener au parc s'il fait beau. Voilà, c'est ma journée !Hello! So, my typical day starts early: I wake up at six and I get up right away, because I don't like lingering in bed. I shower, get dressed and brush my teeth in five minutes, because the bus arrives at quarter to seven and I have to hurry. In the morning, at work, I get a little bored during meetings, but the afternoon goes by fast. In the evening, my wife and I get dinner ready together, and we talk to each other about our day. After dinner, I rest a bit in front of the TV, then I go to bed around eleven — I fall asleep almost right away because I'm tired. This weekend, I'm going to rest Saturday morning, and we're going to go for a walk in the park if the weather's nice. There you go, that's my day!
See the machinery? Eight-plus reflexive verbs in a row — me réveille, me lève, me douche, m'habille, me brosse, m'ennuie, nous préparons, nous parlons, me repose, me couche, m'endors, vais me reposer, allons nous promener — and every single pronoun matches its subject, including the two after aller at the very end. That last pair is the highest-value moment in the whole monologue.

4 · Two more mini role-plays (talk for 30–60 seconds each)

Same idea, smaller. Say your answer out loud first, then tap Show a sample response to compare. Keep every pronoun matching its subject, and remember reciprocal verbs ("each other") only make sense with a plural subject.

  • A · A couple's shared routine — describe how you and your spouse/partner share your morning and evening, using reciprocal verbs where two people act on each other (se parler, se voir, s'aider) alongside regular reflexive routine verbs.
  • Say at least 5 sentences. Why: relationships and daily life together is a favourite exam topic, and it's the one place reciprocal reflexives show up naturally.
Le matin, mon mari et moi, nous nous réveillons presque en même temps. Nous ne nous parlons pas beaucoup avant le café, mais on s'aide toujours pour préparer les enfants. Le soir, nous nous voyons pour le souper et on se raconte notre journée. Nous nous aimons depuis douze ans, et cette petite routine, c'est notre moment préféré ensemble.In the morning, my husband and I wake up at almost the same time. We don't talk to each other much before coffee, but we always help each other get the kids ready. In the evening, we see each other for dinner and we tell each other about our day. We've loved each other for twelve years, and this little routine is our favourite moment together.
  • B · Telling a friend your plans for this evening — a friend asks what you're doing tonight, and you answer with aller + reflexive infinitive at least twice, remembering to change the pronoun each time.
  • Say at least 5 sentences. Why: this is the exact structure from Section 8 of the Learn tab, and it's tested constantly.
Ce soir, je vais me dépêcher de rentrer parce que je suis fatigué. Je vais me doucher et me reposer un peu devant la télévision. Après, je vais me préparer un petit souper léger. Mon coloc va se coucher tôt lui aussi, je pense. Et toi, qu'est-ce que tu vas faire ce soir ?Tonight, I'm going to hurry home because I'm tired. I'm going to shower and rest a bit in front of the TV. After, I'm going to make myself a light little dinner. My roommate is going to go to bed early too, I think. And you, what are you going to do tonight?

5 · Fixing yourself while you speak

Heard yourself skip the pronoun — "je lave les mains…" — or leave it frozen as se after aller — "je vais se lever…"? Don't freeze. Catch it, say a tiny French filler, and re-launch with the right form: Je lave… — pardon, je me lave les mains. I wash… — sorry, I wash my hands. Same for the pronoun-agreement trap: Je vais se lever… — pardon, je vais me lever tôt. I'm going to get up… — sorry, I'm going to get up early. Examiners hear a quick self-correction as a strength, not a slip. Quick check every time a reflexive verb comes out: is there a pronoun at all, and does it match the real subject — not "se"?

Writing practice — get one verb right, then build a whole paragraph

1 · One correct sentence: conjugate se laver / se lever

  • For each line, write one sentence putting the given reflexive verb in the right form for its subject.
  • First pick the right pronoun from the ladder, then conjugate the verb — watch for the stem change in se lever.
  • Why: a single clean pronoun-plus-verb sentence is the brick every paragraph is built from:
  1. Je — se laver (to wash oneself) — les mains avant de manger
  2. Il — se lever (to get up) — tôt pour aller au travail
  3. Nous — se laver — le matin, avant le petit-déjeuner
  4. Vous — se lever — à quelle heure le samedi ?
  5. toi — se laver ou se lever — une phrase vraie sur ta routine
1. Je me lave les mains avant de manger. · 2. Il se lève tôt pour aller au travail. · 3. Nous nous lavons le matin, avant le petit-déjeuner. · 4. Vous vous levez à quelle heure le samedi ? · 5. (par exemple) Je me lève à sept heures tous les jours.1. je + me (regular -ER pattern). 2. il + se lève (accent — stress on the stem). 3. nous + nous lavons (regular -ER, no stem change here). 4. vous + vous levez (no accent — stress shifts to the ending). 5. your own — pronoun must match your subject.

2 · "My morning routine" (4–5 sentences)

  • Write 4–5 sentences about your morning, each built on a reflexive verb from the daily-routine set (se réveiller, se lever, se doucher, se laver, s'habiller, se brosser les dents, se maquiller/se raser, se dépêcher).
  • Keep every pronoun matching its subject and watch the se lever accent.
  • Why: this is the exact paragraph the writing task wants when it asks about your day, and it's built almost entirely from reflexive verbs:
Je me réveille à six heures et demie et je me lève tout de suite. Je me douche pendant dix minutes, puis je m'habille rapidement. Je me brosse les dents et je me maquille avant de partir. Je me dépêche toujours un peu parce que l'autobus arrive à sept heures et demie.I wake up at half past six and I get up right away. I shower for ten minutes, then I get dressed quickly. I brush my teeth and put on makeup before leaving. I'm always in a bit of a hurry because the bus arrives at half past seven.

3 · "My evening routine" (4–5 sentences)

  • Write 4–5 sentences about your evening, using reflexive verbs like se reposer, se préparer, se coucher, s'endormir, plus at least one feeling verb (s'inquiéter, s'amuser, s'ennuyer) or one reciprocal verb (se parler, se voir, se téléphoner) if it fits your evening.
  • Why: mixing routine and feeling reflexives is exactly how a real evening paragraph reads:
Après le travail, je me repose un peu avant de préparer le souper. Ma sœur et moi, nous nous téléphonons presque tous les soirs pour discuter de notre journée. Je m'inquiète parfois pour le lendemain, mais je me couche vers onze heures. Je m'endors assez vite parce que je suis fatiguée.After work, I rest a bit before making dinner. My sister and I call each other almost every evening to chat about our day. I sometimes worry about the next day, but I go to bed around eleven. I fall asleep pretty fast because I'm tired.

4 · Weekend plans (aller + reflexive infinitive)

  • Write 4–5 sentences about your weekend plans, each built on aller + a reflexive infinitive (je vais…, on va…, nous allons…).
  • This is the single highest-value point in the whole chapter: the pronoun must change to match the real subject every time, even though the verb itself stays a plain infinitive.
  • Why: plans and weekends are a favourite writing prompt, and this exact structure is heavily tested:
Ce week-end, je vais me reposer samedi matin, sans réveil. Mon mari et moi, nous allons nous promener au parc s'il fait beau. L'après-midi, nous allons nous préparer pour une petite fête chez des amis. Dimanche, je vais me lever plus tard que d'habitude, et je vais me coucher tôt le soir pour la semaine de travail.This weekend, I'm going to rest Saturday morning, with no alarm. My husband and I are going to go for a walk in the park if the weather's nice. In the afternoon, we're going to get ready for a small party at friends' place. Sunday, I'm going to get up later than usual, and I'm going to go to bed early in the evening for the work week.

5 · The checklist before you finish

  • ① Did every reflexive verb have its pronoun — no je lave, no il rase, only je me lave, il se rase?
  • ② Does the pronoun match the subject — je → me, tu → te, il/elle → se, nous → nous, vous → vous, ils/elles → se?
  • ③ After aller/vouloir/devoir, did I change "se" to match the real subject — je vais me lever, never je vais se lever?
  • ④ Is the stem change right — lève/lèves/lève/lèvent but levons/levez (no accent); appelle/appelles/appelle/appellent but appelons/appelez (single l)?
  • ⑤ Is "pas" in the right spot in negation — ne + pronoun + verb + pas (je ne me lève pas), never je me ne lève pas?

Drill bank — fast practice, checked for you

Change one thing and keep the reflexive verb correct: conjugate the infinitive, flip a sentence to negative, push it through aller/vouloir/devoir (and watch the pronoun change!), turn a statement into a command, or turn an English pattern into natural French. 40 questions in 5 sets.

50 questions on reflexive verbs, by category — the pronoun ladder, stem-changing verbs like se lever and s'appeler, negation and questions, aller/vouloir/devoir plus commands, and a final meaning/mixed-review set.

Rules summary

RuleIn one line
The pronoun ladder + elisionje me, tu te, il/elle se, nous nous, vous vous, ils/elles se — the reflexive pronoun sits right in front of the verb and must match the subject, exactly like a name tag. Before a vowel or a silent h, me/te/se shrink to m'/t'/s': je m'habille, tu t'appelles, il s'ennuie. I get dressed, you're named, he gets bored. This is the one truly new piece in this whole chapter — everything else reuses conjugation you already know.
se laver — the regular patternThe reflexive pronoun goes in front, then the verb conjugates completely normally, same -e/-es/-e/-ons/-ez/-ent as any -er verb: je me lave, tu te laves, il/elle se lave, nous nous lavons, vous vous lavez, ils/elles se lavent. Je me lave avant de partir au travail. I wash up before leaving for work.
se lever — stem-changing (e→è)Same pronoun ladder, but the stem vowel opens up to è everywhere the stress lands on it — everywhere except nous/vous, where the stress moves off that syllable and the plain e stays: je me lève, tu te lèves, il/elle se lève, nous nous levons, vous vous levez, ils/elles se lèvent. Je me lève à six heures les jours de semaine. I get up at six on weekdays.
s'appeler — stem-changing (double consonant)Same idea, different trick: the stem doubles its final consonant everywhere the stress lands on it, and stays single in nous/vous: je m'appelle, tu t'appelles, il/elle s'appelle, nous nous appelons, vous vous appelez, ils/elles s'appellent. Elle s'appelle Priya et ses parents s'appellent Raj et Meera. She's named Priya and her parents are named Raj and Meera.
Daily-routine reflexive verbsse réveiller (wake up), se lever (get up), se laver (wash up), se doucher (shower), s'habiller (get dressed), se brosser les dents/les cheveux (brush teeth/hair), se maquiller (put on makeup), se raser (shave), se dépêcher (hurry), se préparer (get ready), se reposer (rest), se coucher (go to bed), s'endormir (fall asleep). This is the exact vocabulary the TEF/TCF "describe your typical day" prompt is built on.
Feeling / state reflexive verbss'appeler (be named), s'amuser (have fun), s'ennuyer (get bored), s'inquiéter (worry), se fâcher (get angry), se sentir (feel), s'intéresser à (be interested in), se souvenir de (remember). Same pronoun ladder in front, whatever the verb's own conjugation pattern.
Reciprocal meaning — "each other"The same reflexive pronoun can mean "each other" instead of "-self", but only when the subject is plural: se voir, se parler, s'aimer, se rencontrer, se téléphoner. Nous nous voyons souvent. We see each other often. · Ils s'aiment. They love each other. The same verb, se regarder, can mean "look at oneself (in a mirror)" or "look at each other" — context decides.
Negationne goes right before the pronoun, pas right after the verb: ne + pronoun + verb + pas. Je ne me lève pas tôt le samedi. I don't get up early on Saturdays. · Il ne s'appelle pas Marc. His name isn't Marc. Same ne…pas pattern you already know — the pronoun just rides along inside it.
QuestionsEst-ce que changes nothing: Est-ce que tu te lèves tôt ? Do you get up early? With inversion, the verb and subject pronoun flip, but the reflexive pronoun stays put in front of the verb: Te lèves-tu tôt ? Do you get up early? — never "Lèves-tu te tôt ?"
The highest-value point — aller/vouloir/devoir + reflexive infinitiveWhen a reflexive verb follows aller, vouloir or devoir as a second, unconjugated verb, the reflexive pronoun still has to change to match the real subject — it does not stay "se". Je vais me lever tôt demain. I'm going to get up early tomorrow. · Tu dois te dépêcher. You have to hurry. · Nous aimons nous promener le dimanche. We like to walk on Sundays. This is the single most commonly tested point in the whole chapter.
Commands (brief)Positive command: the pronoun jumps after the verb with a hyphen, and te becomes toi: Lève-toi ! Get up! · Dépêchons-nous ! Let's hurry! · Habillez-vous ! Get dressed! Negative command: the pronoun stays in its normal spot, in front: Ne te lève pas ! Don't get up!

Easy ways to remember

    • Every reflexive verb needs a pronoun — no exceptions. Hindi and Punjabi don't mark this the same way, so the easiest slip is dropping it entirely: "je lave" instead of "je me lave".
    • If the verb is reflexive in the dictionary (written with se), it needs its pronoun every single time it's used.
    • The pronoun always matches the subject, not the verb it's attached to. il se lave, never "il me lave" — that would mean "he washes me".
    • Say the whole ladder — je me, tu te, il se, nous nous, vous vous, ils se — until it's reflex, not a lookup.
  • Elide before a vowel or silent h, every time. je m'habille, not "je me habille"; tu t'appelles, not "tu te appelles". Your ear will catch this fastest if you say the sentences out loud.
    • nous/vous are the safe zone for stem changes.
    • In both se lever and s'appeler, the stress moves off the stem in the nous and vous forms, so they keep the plain, "boring" spelling — nous levons, vous appelez — while every other form gets the accent or the double letter.
  • A plural subject is your clue for "each other". se voir, se parler, s'aimer, se rencontrer, se téléphoner only make reciprocal sense with nous, vous or ils/elles — a single person can't see or call "each other" alone.
  • Negation wraps around the pronoun, not before it. Say it as one chunk: ne-me-lève-pas, ne-s'appelle-pas — the pronoun is glued to the verb, and ne…pas wraps around the whole glued unit.
    • The pronoun follows the real subject through aller/vouloir/devoir, every time. Whatever conjugates in front (je vais, tu dois, nous aimons) tells you which pronoun the reflexive infinitive needs — it is never left as "se".
    • Say it as a pair: je vais + me, tu dois + te, nous aimons + nous.
  • Say your own morning out loud every day: Je me réveille, je me lève, je me lave, je m'habille, je me dépêche. One string of five verbs drills the pronoun ladder, the elision, and the daily-routine vocabulary all at once.

Top traps to re-check

✗ Wrong✓ Right
Je lave le matin.Je me lave le matin. (the reflexive pronoun can't be dropped)
Il me lave. (meant: "he washes himself")Il se lave. (the pronoun must match the subject — il needs se, not me)
Je vais se lever tôt.Je vais me lever tôt. (the pronoun changes to match "je", it never stays "se")
Je me ne lève pas tôt.Je ne me lève pas tôt. (ne goes before the pronoun, pas goes after the verb)
Je me appelle Ravi. / Tu te appelles ?Je m'appelle Ravi. / Tu t'appelles ? (elide me/te/se to m'/t'/s' before a vowel)
Nous nous voyons. (read as "we see ourselves" when the context means "we see each other")Nous nous voyons souvent. = We see each other often. (check whether the subject is plural before deciding reflexive vs. reciprocal)
Lèves-tu te tôt ?Te lèves-tu tôt ? (in inversion, the reflexive pronoun stays in front of the verb — only the subject pronoun and verb flip)
Levez-toi ! (vous command)Levez-vous ! (te→toi only happens in the tu form; vous stays vous)

Review by category

CategoryDo
The pronoun ladderRe-read the Learn and Visual Map tabs — the pronoun ladder (je me, tu te, il se, nous nous, vous vous, ils se) and the elision rule (m'/t'/s'). Then do the Quiz once in Practice mode to see where you stand.
se laver, drilledDrill se laver until the whole ladder is automatic — say all six forms out loud, pronoun then stem then ending. Go through the Examples tab and notice every reflexive pronoun in context.
The stem-changing twoFocus on the two stem-changing verbs, se lever and s'appeler. Drill both, paying attention to which forms change (je, tu, il, ils) and which stay plain (nous, vous). Then open the Mistakes tab and fix every sentence that mixes these two up.
Routine and feeling verbsWork only on daily-routine and feeling verbs — se réveiller, se doucher, s'habiller, se brosser les dents, se dépêcher, s'inquiéter, s'ennuyer, se souvenir de. Do the Speak tab role-plays out loud and record yourself describing your morning.
Negatives, questions, each otherOwn negation, questions, and the reciprocal "each other" meaning. Do the Write tab against the clock (10 minutes): write five sentences using ne…pas with a reflexive verb, and two using a reciprocal verb like se voir or se téléphoner.
The pronoun after aller / vouloir / devoirDrill the highest-value point — the pronoun-agreement rule after aller/vouloir/devoir. Do the Drills tab set for this pattern, then the Transform tab, pushing sentences through aller, vouloir and devoir and watching the pronoun change each time.
Testing it cold, then out loudDo the Quiz in Exam mode. Aim for 42 out of 50. Then, without stopping, talk out loud for one minute describing your typical day from waking up to going to bed, using at least six reflexive verbs.

Four passes after that

  • First pass: clear every category in the table above.
  • Widen it: redo every question you missed in the Mistakes tab, especially any pronoun-agreement slip after aller/vouloir/devoir and any dropped elision (m'/t'/s'). Redo the Drills tab timed, without looking anything up first. Say your full waking-up-to-leaving-the-house routine out loud before breakfast.
    • Mix it with earlier chapters: mix this chapter with an earlier one — write 10 sentences about your week: 5 describing your daily routine with reflexive verbs, and 5 describing a relationship or friendship using reciprocal verbs (se voir, se parler, s'aimer, se téléphoner).
    • Then say a short "my day" out loud each evening.
  • Test it cold: do the Quiz and the Drills tab again with a timer, then record one minute of yourself describing your typical day, start to finish. Compare it with your first recording — smoother? fewer stops? Then fill in the checklist below.

Checklist — are you ready to move on?

  • I know the full pronoun ladder — je me, tu te, il/elle se, nous nous, vous vous, ils/elles se — and I never leave it out.
  • I elide me/te/se to m'/t'/s' before a vowel or silent h, every time: je m'habille, tu t'appelles, il s'ennuie.
  • I can conjugate se laver fully, and I can conjugate the two stem-changing verbs se lever (je me lève…nous nous levons) and s'appeler (je m'appelle…nous nous appelons) without hesitating.
  • I know the daily-routine and feeling/state reflexive verbs (se réveiller, se lever, se doucher, s'habiller, se dépêcher, s'inquiéter, s'ennuyer, se souvenir de) and can use them in a sentence.
  • I can use the reciprocal "each other" meaning (nous nous voyons, ils s'aiment) and tell it apart from the reflexive "-self" meaning using context.
  • I can negate a reflexive verb correctly: ne + pronoun + verb + pas.
  • I can ask a question with a reflexive verb, and I know the reflexive pronoun stays in front of the verb even in inversion (Te lèves-tu tôt ?).
  • I always change the pronoun to match the real subject after aller/vouloir/devoir + reflexive infinitive: je vais me lever, tu dois te dépêcher, nous aimons nous promener — never "se".
  • Scored 42+ out of 50 on the Quiz in Exam mode.
  • Can describe my typical day out loud, from waking up to going to bed, without stopping.

Ready? All boxes ticked, 42/50 on the quiz, and a smooth run describing your typical day from start to finish — move on to the next chapter. Anything unticked — go back to that tab this week and redo it.

Your practice plan

1

See the pattern

Learn + Visual Map
  • Read the Learn tab slowly, top to bottom.
  • Meet the pronoun ladder — me/te/se/nous/vous/se — and the elision rule (me/te/se shrink to m'/t'/s' before a vowel or silent h: je m'habille I get dressed).
  • Then learn the regular pattern with se laver, and the two stem-changing verbs, se lever (e→è) and s'appeler (doubled consonant).
  • Then open the Visual Map and trace the whole ladder — reflexive pronoun + stem + ending — with your finger.
  • Don't rush. The goal today is just to see which pronoun belongs to which subject, before you worry about producing it yourself.

Tip: say all six forms of se laver out loud, five times: Je me lave, tu te laves, il se lave, nous nous lavons, vous vous lavez, ils se lavent. I wash up, you wash up, he washes up, we wash up, you wash up, they wash up. Hear how the pronoun and ending both change, but the stem stays put.

2

Spot the trap

Examples + Mistakes
  • Read the Examples tab and watch these verbs come back in real newcomer situations — a morning routine before work, getting ready for school, a couple's shared evening, friends who see each other every weekend.
  • Then open the Mistakes tab, cover the fix with your hand, look at each wrong sentence, and try to repair it yourself before you peek.
  • The two biggest traps in this whole chapter are dropping the reflexive pronoun entirely (writing "je lave" instead of "je me lave" — Hindi and Punjabi don't mark this the same way, so this slip is easy to miss) and leaving the pronoun frozen as "se" after aller/vouloir/devoir (saying "je vais se lever" instead of "je vais me lever" — the pronoun must always match the real subject).
  • Give those extra attention today.

Tip: keep a small notebook. Every mistake you almost made goes in it — that notebook becomes your personal review list.

3

Make it automatic

Drills — aim for 100 questions
  • Open the Drills tab and work through the sets — the regular pattern with se laver, the stem-changing se lever and s'appeler, the daily-routine and feeling/state verbs, the reciprocal "each other" meaning, negation and questions, and the pronoun-agreement trap after aller/vouloir/devoir.
  • Aim for 100 questions in total. It sounds like a lot, but each one takes a few seconds, and the repetition is exactly what turns the pronoun ladder into a reflex instead of a rule you have to think through.
  • Tip: when you miss one, don't just move on — do five more of that same type right away.
  • Missed a stem-changing form? Say five in a row: je me lève, je m'appelle, je me promène, je me rappelle, je m'achète un café. I get up, I'm named, I take a walk, I remember, I buy myself a coffee.
4

Produce it yourself

Speak + Write labs
  • Today you produce, not just recognise. Do the Speak tab out loud — full voice, not in your head — including the quick answers under 3 seconds and the role-plays.
  • Then run the describe-your-day monologue: talk for one full minute about your typical day, from waking up to going to bed, using at least 8 different reflexive verbs and at least one aller/vouloir/devoir + reflexive infinitive for a plan later on — for example Je me réveille à six heures, je me lève, je me douche, et ce soir je vais me reposer. I wake up at six, I get up, I shower, and tonight I'm going to rest. After that, do the Write tab on paper, by hand.
  • Saying and writing your own sentences is harder than reading them, and that's exactly the point.

Tip: record your monologue on your phone and listen back. Listen especially for a missing reflexive pronoun and for a pronoun that stayed frozen as se after aller/vouloir/devoir — those are the two easiest slips to miss while you're busy speaking.

5

Test it cold

Quiz in exam mode + Review plan

Take the 50-question Quiz in ⏱️ Exam mode — no peeking at answers until the end. Aim for 42 out of 50. Then open the Review tab, read through what you got wrong, and pick your plan for the coming week.

Tip: below 42? No stress — go back to the Mistakes tab, especially the dropped-pronoun trap and the pronoun-agreement rule after aller/vouloir/devoir, redo it, and take the quiz again in three days.

Want more? Print it.

If you like working on paper, there's the printable workbook with full answers — the same reflexive verbs, in a format you can do on the couch, on the bus, or anywhere without a screen.

All five stages ticked? You have taken this chapter from recognising the pattern to producing it under time. Bon courage ! Good luck — you've got this.

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The 7 steps to mastery

Can you honestly say this?

Read each line out loud. If it is true — and has been true for 3 days — check it. If you hesitate, that's useful too: it tells you exactly which tab to visit next.

All 17 boxes checked? Then this chapter lives in you now, not just on the page. Come back in a month and re-read this list — if every box is still honestly true, move on with full confidence.
French With Guri · Grammar Mastery · Chapter 9 · Reflexive Verbs · English explanations, French practice.